Going from "Blame On to Game On"

Subtitle: How Forgiveness Forges the Path to Wholeness

Blame On vs. Game On

• Blame On: Holding others responsible for our pain, replaying past hurts, and seeking revenge or compensation.

• Game On: Accepting responsibility, forgiving (even intentional harm), and moving forward with clarity and purpose.

The Cost of Unforgiveness

• Blame is easy, but it keeps us stuck.

• Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer.

• Emotional stagnation affects personal and professional growth.

My Journey: From Stagnation to Action

• Transitioned from a state job to a nonprofit mental health center in 2017.

• Excitement turned to struggle—new program, shifting professional views, and team dynamics.

• Conflict arose when my vision clashed with my supervisor’s, causing stress and misalignment.

When Your Vision Clashes with Leadership

If you're experiencing a conflict between your mission and your supervisor’s expectations:

1. Clarify the mission – Compare your understanding with official statements.

2. Communicate openly – Have a formal/informal discussion to align expectations.

3. Create an action plan – Identify steps to promote mission clarity in your team.

4. Engage leadership – Determine how to support the broader organizational goals.

What If Your Values Are in Conflict?

• Ask yourself: Is it a misunderstanding, or a fundamental values misalignment?

• Seek clarity through honest conversations.

• Consider discussing the issue with higher leadership—but weigh potential repercussions.

• A life coach can help you explore options and develop an actionable path forward.

Moving From Blame to Action

• Blame keeps you powerless; taking ownership creates momentum.

• Coaches ask tough questions, provide accountability, and help you build a concrete plan.

• Inaction is still a choice—with consequences.

Are you ready to stop blaming and start taking control? Let’s develop a plan together—reach out today.